Ancestral Grief

July 10, 2019

 

I look back towards my last shore as I catch my breath upon this new land I’ve called Freedom and it’s there, on that shore I have left behind. A glimmer of something that pulls me to my feet. A calling that yanks at my core. It is something I can’t rationalize, but something I cannot ignore. I am feeling something bigger and grander than my mind can even imagine. It doesn’t have words and nor should it. Words belittle this deep ache.

 

My feet are sunk into the ground, the sand and soil and rock are holding me in place. They have steadied

my foundation. I can feel roots sprouting from the soles of my feet and it is in this moment I realize I am not only being held by this place but I have been craving this for centuries. I am being told that there is something in this land I am responsible for. That inside this rapture, this oasis, this Freedom that I have found the power to remain.

 

My hands reach down into the ground to welcome it into my nails and into the creases of my knuckles and into my scars. The earth is nestling into me just as much as I am in it. This land is claiming me. It has told me I will belong soon. It is asking me to stay. It is vibrating and beating through me in a way that only ancestors could know. Not just my ancestors but all ancestors. It is telling me that everything I have been looking for, that future-proofing and opportunity has always been in the places I have continually left behind. That those beats and vibrations are coming in from every shore I have pillaged.

 

That the pulse of it is connected to me. That I am the ancestors, that these lands have been waiting for me to stop looking across horizons and to start feeling their bedrock. To place my heart on these shores, to courageously stay. To crack the core of my intellectual shell and trust what raw humility is buried deep in this fortress of opportunity.

 

I break open in a wild range of sorrowful wails. A lamentation and celebration happening all at once. A space that isn’t driven by purpose, but one driven out from my control. One that simply cannot yet be described and only felt.

 

 The pulse fills my ears, the spirit of the experience is rising up through the ground and into my body. I am craving more...I’m starving yet surrounded by nourishment.

 

And I am exhausted. It’s a desire so deep that I am losing touch. I cannot hold on no matter how hard or fast or slow I swim. Because I am just tired of trying. Trying to get more, be more, find more, discover more. I am tired of what MY ancestors called opportunity.

 

And I am finally realizing that my ancestors are tired too. My ancestors are tired of raping and pillaging. I sink into the ground and wrap myself in this realization. The smell of children’s blood on my ancestors hands. The wails of grandmothers, mothers, fathers and children not only for themselves but for this land. The moments when my ancestors knew that they had gone too far but went on anyway.

 

When my ancestors chose me over everything else.

 

I live inside those years when my ancestors were driven by opportunity only. Where their ignorance and craving for more led them to be the nightmares of children today. Where we are still experiencing the results of all of their crimes. Because those crimes have become our crimes as well.

 

I sink into the pulse of this land and I finally find them. They are telling me that this is not what it was all for. That they are grieving their ignorance. You see, they thought they were doing this for us when in fact they did this to us. They are grieving that in all of their drive towards opportunity, they failed to remember. That they actively chose to ignore the wisdom of their elders when they decided to choose opportunity over everything else.

 

They grieve the choice to have become heroes instead of elders.

 

They are not only grieving what they have done, but also what have they created. And they have created us. The future ancestors of this land and these people.

 

There will be no reconciliation with people or land until we can collectively claim and grieve for our  

ancestors. To grieve not only because of them but for them. Could it be that our ancestors need us just as much as we need them? Could it be that every missing Indigenous woman, every toxic spill or every school shooting is a cry from our ancestors to wake the fuck up.

 

I am cracking ever deeper as the pulse shakes the fog from my bones and I find it there. A grief that started long before my ancestors decided to leave their shores looking for Freedom. A grief not only for everything they left behind, but a grief for their ancestors who called and were never claimed. A grief that we are again not hearing their call.

 

Could this grief still be love? Could I grieve everything my ancestors forgot and still love them for the sake of everything they killed to bring me here? Could I honour what they could not? Can I do that for them and also despite them? Could all ancestors need us to collectively grieve all that was and can never be again. Can we earn belonging?

 

Could these pieces live together in this land? There was a time when they did. Where hatred, ignorance, grief and love existed together. The bones of my ancestors are in graves shared by the Huron’s, the Lnu’k, the French and the English. Could it be that together these ancestors are begging for us to stop?

 

And that this begging is their love song? An sorrow filled song, a plea. A song sung in the pulse of this land, that smells of ignorance, blood and death but also of acceptance, forgiveness and love.

 

It is our grief song that the ancestors are longing to hear.

 

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